I haven’t regularly eaten a proper lunch since I was in my late 20s. What do I mean by this? I mean, I don’t know how to do it anymore and I need to learn how. Let me clarify.
Looking back to before we moved to Nairobi (or when I worked in an office setting here), I was able to do a working lunch meeting, or break for lunch during a long meeting where food was catered into the office. I could, from time to time, go out for lunch during the work day. But, most days, while working, either at home or at the office, I just shoveled in food and went back to work. At the office, I ate at my desk. At home, I’d have lunch already prepped (if it wasn’t prepped I just wouldn’t eat) and I ate standing up in the kitchen and then go back to work.
Now, I am able to go meet friends for lunch and I try to do so now and then. When I’m at home I still grab whatever (unless there is nothing prepped and then I just won’t eat) and eat standing up in the kitchen. This is not healthy.
It’s not just a matter of eating. The issue I have is taking a break. I have lost my ability to take a break in the middle of the day. Again, this is not healthy.
I’m trying to change this. My first attempts were futile. I’d force myself to sit down (good). Unfortunately, I’d be done in under ten minutes. Trying to read while eating didn’t help (you need hands for both activities). Listening to an audiobook or watching a show didn’t help either. I’d be done eating and then felt like there was something better to do with my time.
I’m changing my approach. Since it’s more about the time and taking a break and less about the eating, I’m putting less emphasis on the time spent eating.
I’m preparing lunch. So far, taking the time to do that is very relaxing for me. Then when I eat, I’m calmer and able to eat a little more slowly. I’m still eating pretty fast and I still eat standing up sometimes, but that’s improving. I’m also going to try to take a walk after lunch.
We now live in a walkable estate so why not take a nice stroll after lunch? I’ve only managed to do this once. I have gone around our garden a number of times after eating. I still keep thinking that I should get back to whatever I was doing. But I’m getting better and I’m realizing that I always (ALWAYS) feel better after I walk a bit (even if it’s just going around the garden).
I’m working on it.
P.S. The main photo is a tuna patty with a dollop of Greek yogurt and caviar on top of puréed cauliflower. It would have been a lot fancier if I took more than seven minutes to wolf it down. I did pause halfway to take the photo.